Head covering 1.5

I was thinking about all the different ladies I know who head cover and their different religious/spiritual paths and how well we all accept each other for those differences and we also have head-covering that unites all of us. This post is dedicated to them and future ladies ( and gentlemen) who take the plunge to head-cover. Now plunge sounds like a very intense word. Especially for this particular practice. But I believe that there are many stories out there similar to my own.  Head-covering intrigued me; I longed to do to it, but always felt I couldn't then one day I just decided all my fears were about how others would react. When it comes to head-covering, it has nothing to do with other people!

It really begins with you, and your desire/ need to cover your hair. There is no reason why you shouldn't hearken unto the call. Especially one with a such a profound history.  When you read up on the history of veiling ( head-covering, etc) you will find that many cultures practiced some form of covering their hair. In my last post I gave my reasons for starting to cover. These are good questions to ask yourself. But this post isn't about that really. What it is about is dealing with others as you begin your journey into covering your head.

Whether you cover full time or part time. You are always going to get funny looks, questions galore, and sometimes this is overwhelming. Questions from family, friends, and spiritual leaders ( for example). How do we deal with this? How can we react positively to these inquiries. For me a lot has been said to other people who asked my friends or family. One of my friends was AMAZING and responded so well. When covering I try to find a similarity in my current spiritual path. I go to the LDS church ( The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) what my friend said was  something like this:

" Lexxy wears her head-cover just like you would wear your garments"

This is very accurate as I love modesty practices from the way I dress to what I cover my head with. I believe in being modest, my body is precious and I love being provided a way to express my love of modesty. I also love that I can keep my body covered and the only person who sees all is my husband. Anyway find something similar in your religious/spiritual path that you can relay to others. This often helps them understand your choice better. 

Be honest, let them know the whole story and when you decided to start covering. This shows people you are willing to share with them your personal experience. What I have noticed in the LDS faith is that my bishop said it is not something the church suggests. I sort of chuckled. OF COURSE NOT! I let him know it was more of  personal revelation for me. If spiritual leaders seems dismayed, no worries let them know it is personal and that you have prayed about it ( or however you speak with deity). 

Actions often speak louder than words. even when you share with people your reasons ; some people will still be turned off. I simply ignore this. I just continue to  be myself. I do not shun those who seem to really have issues with it. In fact I make sure they know I still want to say hello and ask how they are doing. In general I care about people. Even if I do not know them, I always wish the best for them and theirs. I wouldn't be very Christ-like and I strive to follow his example. 

Basically stick to your guns. And last but not least. If someone is harassing you over your choice... I would simply tell them that the issue is theirs, not yours. A lot of people forget that you can't make a person conform to your will and you shouldn't want them to. Live and let live I always say. I also think some people need a reality check. If they are more concerned about your personal business than their own they need to stop and do a double take on the situation. Of course don't be rude to the person. Just make them think. 

I hope this post helps those who are in the process of getting ready to cover or who are. Either way i support people's choices and head-covering holds a special place in my heart. 

~Lexxy~

Head covering 1.0

I have always had this love for head covering, some of you may be familiar with the Jewish Tichel or the Muslim Hijab ( there are others as well, like the Amish and the Mennonites) I am completely obsessed with modesty but in a good way! Hear me out!

Now what is this very syncretic Latter Day Saint thinking? Wearing a head covering when it is not exactly part of my church's belief? Well call it personal revelation. Now I actually started covering my hair while I was still "pagan" I am going to use this term loosely here as I was practicing a different spiritual path and am now melding my previous knowledge with what I learn as I attend the LDS Church ( Now you may understand to extent why my profile says odd LDS lol!) and on a side note I am not typing this so I can be chastised or told I am doing something "wrong" I will boldly state this: at the end of the day no matter the spiritual path you follow- your path is yours alone- what you do is between you and your Deity.

With that said. I had this longing to cover for YEARS! YES! YEARS! And it all came down to one single post a member of a Facebook group I belong to posted on head covering. I was instantly excited to read about this "event" and joined a group of women of a variety of faiths that also felt or already covered their hair for whatever reason ( as the reason or reasons do vary).

I started researching veiling, head covering, and whatever else I could find on the subject. I prayed , I contemplated and something told me to go for it. So of course I did! I have many reasons for covering. I will go into them briefly.

When I thought about my reasons these popped up, I wear my head cover to protect me from surrounding energies. I consider myself an empath, call me crazy but I tend to feel what other's feel, or rather I have a sense of how they are feeling and sometimes this weighs heavily on me. I wear my head cover to represent my love and commitment to my husband- this idea is actually taken from Judaism- women covered their hair after being married. I liked this idea due to the fact that my hands are often swollen and there are times I cannot wear my wedding ring. I wear my head cover because for me I feel less modest without it. I don't care what anyone thinks. I also feel closer to Heavenly Father.

I know there are some people out there family and friends who may not understand fully. Heck I am still coming to my own understanding. Those were my reasons to begin with, but as I continue to cover it changes and grows.  I will save this for another post.

I want to blog more about this- look for more posts and thank you for reading.

~Lexxy~

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